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To protect ourselves, we all need to see sociopaths as they really are. Many choose to keep quiet about the sociopath's actions, but turning a blind eye allows them to continue their abuse towards innocent, trusting, individuals. Be aware of the sociopath's superficial charm which diverts attention from disturbing aspects of their true nature.
The following is an excerpt from the article Understanding the Sociopath: Cause, Motivation, Relationship
"The sociopath remains largely misunderstood." Published on April 2, 2013 by Seth Meyers, Psy.D.
The article appeared in Psychology Today under Insight Is 20/20
"Exploring the pervasive, and unperceived, patterns that govern our lives" by Seth Meyers and Katie Gilbert.
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Ultimately, the sociopath typically emotionally destroys those who are close to him or her, but the sociopath destroys them in a way consistent with their unique approach to others: They take them out like your average person kills off characters in a video game. Those in the wake of the sociopath suffer because they have the liability sociopaths don't: actual human feelings that stem from a deep sense of social obligations to others, a moral anchor that is supposed to be part and parcel of having relationships.
The sense of entitlement that comes with sociopathy is astonishing to those who abide by the social laws and conventions of our culture. Where does the entitlement come from? It stems from an underlying sense of rage. Sociopaths feel deeply angry and resentful underneath their often-charming exterior, and this rage fuels their sense that they have the right to act out in whichever way they happen to choose at the time. Everything is up for grabs with sociopaths and nothing is off limits.
In relationships, sociopaths are the epitome of Machiavellian creatures. If they were astrological signs, they would be Geminis, with two distinct 'selfs' at work. They are duplicity incarnate, with a polished self shown to the world and a covert, hidden self that has a rigid and calculating agenda: assume the highest level of the social hierarchy and win, win, win. It is often the kindest and most trusting individuals who suffer the most at the hands of sociopaths, and the healing process for these individuals continues long after the relationship has ended. Those in the wake of the sociopath are often left wondering, What happened to me? Why does this one individual have such a powerful effect on me?